Sex can be exciting for a couple when it is not done the usual way. To enjoy a great sex life, couples must learn how sex can be spiced up with various things. Some things to consider are listed below.
Where do you have sex?
Where sex is carried out goes a long way as to how great it will be for a couple. If it is always on the bed, in the room, it may not always be exciting.
But, when other locations are tried out, it creates great excitement for the couple. It is like discovering another way of enjoying real great sex.
“Don’t always make love in the same place at the same time in the same position: It’s the kiss of death in any relationship,” Cadell says.
In fact, the man should always strive to learn new techniques to satisfy his woman, like multitasking while giving her oral sex. Focus on her clitoris, stimulate her G-spot with one hand, and brush your other hand all through the intimate terrain of her butt. “If you can do that,” Cadell says, “she’s never going to let you go.”
How often do you have sex?
Regular sex gives a couple a lot of experience that leads to mastering the act of sex for great excitement. Any couple that wants to achieve great sex life must have sex regularly. Someone once said that the average guy has sex about twice a week if he’s married—a little less often (once) if he’s single, a little more (three times) if he’s single but shacking up.
If you’re not hitting your number, work on your approach. In a University of New Orleans, United States of America, study, nearly 70 per cent of men reported that when they initiate sex, they overestimate their partners’ desire to get it on, most likely because they think women are like gas grills: Flick a switch and they get hot.
Talking to her—about work, family, the news— establishes a bond of sharing that she equates with romance. To you, it’s conversation, but for her it is intimacy.
Do you share your fantasies?
Healthy couples share information on what they like and don’t like. “You don’t have to spend hours talking about your sex life,” Brame says. “What’s important is sharing with your partner something that’s deeply intimate.”
Fisher suggests talking at a safe, nonsexual time. Women get intimacy just from talking, and this way, she won’t feel pressured to perform right away—and that can make her more willing to put on the malfunctioning wardrobe another time.
Can you name all her hot spots?
A man should know at least 10 hot spots on his partner’s body that drive her wild, says Cadell. Not knowing is a sign that you might not have enough coluors on your palette to paint a sexual masterpiece. Simple technique—a kiss around the earlobe, a stroke between her toes—will help you find them.
“Before you try to experiment with wild positions, be the best student of her body that you can be,” says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., a sex therapist and author. To find more spots, slow down your kissing, feeling, and touching so dramatically that it barely feels as if you’re moving. “It’s all about slowing sex down to find where she’s receptive,” Brame says.
What do you both wear to bed?
What couples wear to bed has a direct impact on how exciting their sex life will be. When suggestive dresses are worn by couples, it makes having sex spontaneous, without undue hindrances.
Button-up pajamas send the message that she’s not ready for sex. But sleeping in the nude doesn’t necessarily indicate sexuality, either. The true green light: when she’s giving some thought to what she wears—because that implies an element of seduction. Whether it’s lace or a tight T-shirt, spending some time and thought preparing for bed is a sign that she’s more open to sex.
How long does sex last?
The minimum duration of sex—including seduction, foreplay, and intercourse—should be about 30 minutes. “Anything under half an hour is not satisfying to a woman,” Cadell says. If you’re not quite there yet, build up your sexual stamina by aiming to make each sexual encounter a few minutes longer than the one before.
Research shows that the average man lasts about 14 minutes during intercourse, but you don’t necessarily have to go that long to satisfy her. For every 30 minutes of sex, only one-quarter to one-third of the time should be spent on actual intercourse, Cadell says. This leaves plenty of time for the other things she likes.
All the above among other things will guarantee a great sex life for couples.
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