LOVE LETTERS: DEAR NAOMI

DEAR NAOMI: This is my first Valentine's Day with my boyfriend, so I want to do something nice for him but not go over-the-top and freak him out. Any suggestions? —Just-O.K. Cupid

DEAR JUST-O.K. CUPID: Do dinner, cook something special, create a romantic atmosphere in the bedroom or around the bath … but Valentine's Day needs to be every day of the year. Flowers should be given all the time.

—Love & Light, Naomi

DEAR NAOMI: My husband is a flirt. I know he's faithful, but it drives me crazy. How do I make him stop?

—Not Charmed

DEAR NOT CHARMED: Give him some of his own medicine and see how he likes it. Have confidence in yourself, and see if that changes anything. If it doesn't, he's not right for you anyway.—Love & Light, Naomi

DEAR NAOMI: I met the perfect guy, except that I just found out he's 10 years younger than I am. My friends are teasing me about being a "cougar," but does age really matter?

—The Accidental Huntress

DEAR ACCIDENTAL HUNTRESS: If you like the guy and you have a strong bond, don't think twice about what other people say. They're probably jealous!

—Love & Light, Naomi

DEAR NAOMI: My boyfriend and I broke up when I discovered that he was cheating on me with a friend, and now our whole social circle knows about it. How can I move on and preserve my dignity?

—Cuckolded in Chicago

DEAR CUCKOLDED: Ignore him. Treat the situation with silence. Don't utter his name from your mouth. It's painful, I know, but true silence will make him irrelevant in your life. As for the friends who choose him over you, edit them out of your life too.

—Love & Light, Naomi

DEAR NAOMI: I recently ended a relationship that wasn't working for me. A week later, another guy who I've always liked asked me out. What should I do? I want to say yes, but I'm worried that my ex will be hurt.

—To Date or Not to Date

DEAR TO DATE: Go for it! You weren't happy with what you had, so now you've unlocked the energy, and that has attracted someone who is suited for you. It's okay; don't be hard on yourself. Enjoy it.

—Love & Light, Naomi

DEAR NAOMI: I've been with my partner for five years, and I want him to just bite the bullet and propose. What can I do to convince him?

—Putting a Ring on It (Hopefully)

DEAR PUTTING A RING ON IT: You shouldn't have to convince anyone after five years—just walk. Take a sabbatical from him and see what happens.

—Love & Light, Naomi

DEAR NAOMI: I think my boyfriend is cheating, but I don't want to confront him without evidence. I know it's wrong to look at his phone, but I need to find out. Should I do it?

—Nantucket Nancy Drew

DEAR NANCY: Be honest with yourself. Have there been any real signs or are you just being paranoid? Talk to him about it today, and don't waste your time on a man with a wandering eye.

—Love & Light, Naomi

DEAR NAOMI: I love nothing more than to text men when I start dating them—I could go on like that all day. My friends say I need to dial it back. How many texts is too many?

—Text Maniac, Los Angeles

DEAR TEXT MANIAC: It's important to leave him wanting more. If he texts, reply; if he doesn't text, don't text him. One text is too many if he didn't text you first.

—Love & Light, Naomi